suffering quotient

Something i joke about a lot is that people have their suffering quotient constant ... you compare probs of two people - you mightfeel one is happier but in steady-state you will see that people always have a set of problems to bother them and though their magnitude be different but they will end up bothering them in the same way..what is problem after all a perception...
was watching tv in the gym- watching a tyra banks show and saw how a normal average american lady who in my opinion was not too fat felt that she was all fat and her self confidence had shaken ... i just went back and was thinking about some of the amazing women i have met and thier problems - my maid in pune who had to lie to her parents that she is not a maid servant as she hails from a "respectable" family or roopa in iitk who was probably one of the most intelligent women but was a maid servant.. i dont know what made me find them amazing - their ability to sacrifice or thier ability to face the problems on thier own .. i think both .. sometimes i feel i am myself a sucker for sadness- i feel "happier" or probably stable if i have a problem to bother me - i mean not the problems like flat tyre or a broken mobile (these problems actually give me a heart attack - just hate them) but problems that deal with non-materialistic issues... the problems that have no solution except probably accepting them ...i find these problems as food for my thought.. (road less travelled) opens with a line - "life is a problem".. and if we acknowledge this fact we could be happier...
i have heard so many people whose problems seen from one perspective are very stupid and seen from other perspective very understandable and very real...something worldly-wise people will not understand ... and i treasure the bonds with such people, we share a problem which just the two of us understand, we don't judge we don't solve them but we just identify them and learn to live with them..somehow i find these relationships so real...and i find myself being more real in these moments rather than hundreds of hi how are you and how you doing moments that i have with rest of the people (i have a image of party girl here :) and i am anything but a group person -its so damn fake!!)

sometimes i feel that most of the problems that we have is probably because we "think"..
i wonder if i was a bird may be i would be dumb enough to not let anything bother me so much and then may be i will be not sensitive enough to feel any pain.. not having any ability to think and just the ability to sweep the sky ..be in the moment ..........
just wondering how many times we feel hurt because we think about the past and the future ..if we just live in the moment will it not be so much peaceful....just decotexualize the moment from the rest of the life and do it for every moment ..just let go off every fear every pain every desire...can i reach this state ?